The reason I started writing a personal gratitude book & why I think that you should also start too.
Did you ever get that feeling like you were giving your best and yet it seems like you’re… ahm, “wasting” the best? Or like, you get pissed why you’re not at the desired place (yet), after all the time, energy, money, and whatnot you’ve invested? You know what I mean? Well, it has happened to me. And I think it has to you too (not that I wanna jump to conclusions, but it’s quite common).
This one time, several months ago, I’d just arrived home from a friends-date. It was a work day that day, and the next one too, so before going to bed, I was supposed to go through the tasks for the next morning. But I felt exhausted, I wanted to go lie down a little, just stare at the TV, not think about anything, not about tomorrow and what it brings. And than fall asleep. My mind didn’t agree, though. I started thinking about where I am, what I’m doing, what have I accomplished, is this going anywhere, why haven’t I arrived there yet, what the s*it? And, you see, your mind does this. It most likely will lead you through a s*it hole right in the ultimate s*it pile, if you let it.
And, so all this stupid questions started popping up my mind, and it got intense pretty quickly. I actually felt anxious. I couldn’t stop thinking, and not all thinking’s good, you know. More questions, more s*it. And when you’re feeling like this, everything around starts bagging you. Everything’s dumb, you feel dumb, that couch’s so stupid, you can’t stand the color of your curtains (you don’t have curtains). I mean, is it just me?
Anyway, it wasn’t pretty at all. All that negative energy, and no balls to punch the walls (not sure if I just thought of this, or have read it somewhere and now it just popped on my mind)… It’s no good. And so I remembered this “be thankful” technique, express gratitude or whatever, that I’ve been hearing and reading about everywhere over the last few years. I’m pretty sure that my mother have also been telling me about this. She’s the best! And I thought “Well, okay. Let’s actually try this.”
And so I started thinking about me being alive and healthy. How great is that? My parents both being alive and well and everything. My sister too. Phoebe! I have Phoebe. Greatest and most amazing of friends. Water. Flowers. I didn’t even realize that I wasn’t feeling anxious anymore. I actually found myself playing and petting Phoebe, while listing (in my mind) all these people and things to be grateful for. Phoebe was looking at me with those almond eyes of hers, like I’m the most important and most awesome person in the world. Dogs do that. And all was better. Calmer. Life didn’t seem pointless anymore more.
It took me a long time to realize that in order for this to actually work, like all the time, I have to do it all the time. Like exercise, or meditation, or anything that you actually expect results from, it requires sticking to it as frequently as possible. Like all things that you wanna succeed at and benefit from, it requires discipline. Sure, it does work if you only return to it when you’re feeling down. But if it works great than, can you imagine how powerful of a method it will actually be if you were practicing, like, everyday?
So, I turned this notebook into my personal book of gratitude, and it’s become part of my morning ritual. Drinking my coffee and writing down all the things I’m grateful for. Appreciating all that’s in my life helps me regain perspective. It makes me see that there are so much things to be happy for, it reminds me that I’m lucky to be where I am and what I am. People have way less!
When you start noticing everything that you have, like clean water to drink, or a heater when it’s freezing, a roof over your head when it’s raining, friends, family, pets… When you actually notice this things, and continue noticing them every day, it’s a lot less likely that you’ll return to the pile of s*it we talked about earlier. You’ll be able to focus on what you can do to get to where you want with what you already have. You’ll feel much calmer, with a positive attitude, regained perspective and the color of the curtains you don’t have won’t bag you anymore. Plain.
Is there any useful technique that you’re using to regain perspective or keep it right? What do you think about adding the gratitude journal to your daily routines? Let’s talk this in comments! I’d love to her your thoughts and suggestions on this!
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